With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, the card, chocolate, and flower industries are prospering. Everyone wants to show their loved ones just how much they truly love them. But let me ask. Is this the best way to show our love? Sure, it is nice to get a card, some chocolate, or a vase of flowers on Valentine’s Day. But is it really necessary?
Do not get me wrong. I love getting flowers and such from my husband. But I love getting them much more “just because”. There are two reasons for this. The first is that the “just because” are not expected. They are just because he is thinking of me and wants to show his love. The second reason is that these industries usually increase their prices this time of year. And I hate having money wasted.
So, what is one to do? After all, it would be incredibly disheartening to just ignore an extra opportunity to show some love. We could buy things for our family and they could buy things for us. But, I’ve put together a list of five ways that we can show our husband or children just how much we love them without spending a dime.
Writing – It stands to reason that a writer would list writing first. It just makes so much sense. First of all, when you take the time to write something down it means more. It is longer lasting. I’ve written many poems for my husband and family. One year I made an acrostic poem of my children’s names. I simply listed attributes about them beginning with the letters of their names. Maybe poetry is not your expertise. Don’t despair. A simple letter that they could hold on to would speak volumes. I have learned that very few men care about poetry. They do, however, want to be respected. So, make a list for your husband of all the reason’s you respect him. Tell him he’s doing a good job. Let him know he’s a good father. Thank him for providing for you every day. My husband has told other men to go to Wal-mart and copy down a Halmark card word for word. I won’t comment on that! But I will say that there is nothing sweeter than a hand written note.
Baking – Sure you can go to the store and buy cupcakes or cookies. But there is always one ingredient the stores leave out – love. Sure you can go out, wait in line for two hours, and share a fancy meal at an expensive restaurant with dozens of other couples but where is the romance in that? One sure way to let your loved ones know you care is to bake them something. Pancakes for breakfast with chocolate chips are one way to give my children something special. One year I took some chocolate and melted it down. I then took wooden skewers and made chocolate heart suckers for my children. A little time and $3 later I was their hero! A frozen pizza is particularly special for my husband! No, not for him to eat but for the children. You see, I can fix us a special romantic meal and send the children to another room with a frozen pizza and a movie. They are happy to get a special treat. We are happy to have some special time. Everyone wins! Does your husband have a favorite meal or dessert? Make it for him. He’ll love you for it!
Investing – Nothing articulates love like time! Invest some time into your children. Play a game with them. Color with them. Read a book together. Help them make a tent in the living room. Just spend time with them. And, after spending time with them put them to bed early and spend time with your husband. My husband and I like to take walks together. We stay close to the house, hold hands, and walk. It’s wonderful. If you have a busy day scheduled make the effort to get up 15 minutes early and linger over a cup of coffee together. It will set the tone for the rest of the day. Keep some white space on your calendar for your family. It shows them you love them!
Organizing – One day my children and I spent an afternoon cleaning out and organizing their daddy’s closet. We even categorized his dress shirts by color. He was so thrilled! Sometimes I surprise him and we clean out and vacuum his car. Doing little things for others is a big way to show love. Does your husband have a desk, a work area, or a shed that needs some attention? Surprise him and organize it. What about your children’s bedrooms? We expect our children to be responsible for their own rooms. It is their job to clean them. And maybe you have extremely neat and organized children who keep their rooms perfectly clutter free. I don’t. My children for some reason think that the trash can is under the bed. So every now and then (for no other reason than because I love them) I help them organize their rooms. A little help goes a long way.
Praying – So far I have listed ways to show our family we love them with our hands – writing, baking, investing, and organizing. But this next one is not something we do with our hands. We do it on our knees. One of the greatest ways to show you love your family is to pray earnestly for them. Pray for your husband, that God would lead him as he leads his family. Pray that God gives him wisdom. Pray that God would bless him. Pray for your children. Pray for their salvation, pray for their protection, pray for their health, and pray for their future. Pray that God will work mightily in your family. Prayer is a great gift that shows great love. Your family may not ever know about it but the effects are eternal.
This list is not exclusive. There are many ways to show love to your family. Be creative. And have a blessed Valentine’s Day!
We love him, because he first loved us. (1John 4:19)
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. (Romans 5:8-10)