A thriving biblical marriage can be characterized by having three priorities in place. The first priority is to have a growing
relationship with God. As I said in the previous post, God ordained marriage for His children. Those outside of the faith cannot have a true biblical marriage. Our relationship with
God should be preeminent. C.S. Lewis said, “When I have learnt to love God better than my earthly dearest, I shall
love my earthly dearest better than I do now.” My husband and I have an understanding that God comes first in our life. We’ll gladly settle for second place. When we are each putting God first we are both moving in the same direction and our marriage is strengthened.
The second priority is a growing marriage. Other than God, nothing should come before your marriage. That includes your children, family, friends, or career. The Christian marriage is like a triangle. God is on top and the husband and wife at
each bottom corner. The closer they get to God, the closer they get to each other. The Scriptures declare, “A threefold cord is not quickly broken,” Ecclesiastes 4:12b. Wife, your husband should know that he is a priority in your life. He should know that you understand and embrace your calling from God as help meet to him. He should know that, next to God, nothing is more important to you on this earth than your relationship with him. I like what Martin Luther said about marriage. “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” This is a God-honoring marriage that points other’s to Him.
The third priority is a growing relationship with the children. Notice the order. As precious as children are, they should not come before the marriage. The home is
not to be “child-centered.” If the children are the focus, what happens when they leave? God’s design is for the children to eventually leave, cleave, and weave their own family together. Therefore, mother should not devote all of her time and energy to them. She should save some for her husband. Of course, this is not always easy to do. It takes a lot of time and energy to raise children. Homeschooling takes even more. But the most wonderful gift you can give your children is a deep love for their father. A strong marriage brings security to the home and an environment that children thrive in.
Tomorrow we will look at the third key to nurturing your marriage – practical application of these truths.