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Salvation is Personal: The Christian Life is Not

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In a few days, my third grandbaby will be born. When he makes his anticipated entrance into this world, he will be placed in the nurturing arms of his mother. He will be held by his father and surrounded by loving siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. He will be well loved, cared for, fed, and protected. This is by God’s design. When we are born into the world, we are born into a family.

The day we are born is significant. Most celebrate it each year. Yet, Christians understand that their physical birth is only their first birth. Every Christian has a spiritual birth. Jesus said to Nicodemus, “I say unto thee, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God,” John 3:3. This new birth changes everything. Old things have passed away; all things have become new. Stony hearts are replaced with hearts of flesh. And where we were once children of wrath, the new birth makes us children of God, granting us eternal life with Him.

When we are born again, we should also be joined to a family of believers.  In this family, we are fed by elders (1 Peter 5:2), and the older teach the younger (Titus 2).  The strong in the faith help restore those overtaken in faults (Galatians 6:1).  The brethren lovingly exhort and warn the unruly (I Thessalonians 5:14).  We encourage one another daily so that sin will not harden hearts (Hebrews 3:12-13).  And we love those in sin enough to have compassion and make a difference in their life.  Jude 22-23 says, “And of some have compassion, making a difference: And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh.”

The idea of experiencing salvation without belonging to a local church is foreign in the New Testament. When individuals repented and believed in Christ, they were baptized and added to the church (Acts 2:41, 47; 16:5). They did not live out a private commitment to Christ. They joined formally with other believers in a local assembly and devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, fellowship, the breaking of bread, and prayer (Acts 2:42).

It is also important to note that the New Testament epistles were written to churches, not individuals. In them, we read about the significance of one another. The scriptures call us to love one another, honor one another, edify one another, admonish one another, care for one another, serve one another, restore one another, bear one another’s burdens, and be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving toward one another.  We are to teach one another, comfort one another, exhort one another, and consider one another.  The Bible says we are to confess our sins to one another, have compassion with one another, be hospitable to one another, minister to one another, and fellowship with one another.[i] It is easy to see a theme here.

Salvation is personal, but the Christian life is not. Just as children who are orphaned, abandoned, and left to themselves can face harm or failure to thrive, so can children of God without a family. God designed us for accountability.  We need each other.  It was never intended for the child of God to be an island unto themselves.  I can’t imagine my grandson being born and left to himself without love, care, and protection. I can’t imagine him not having nourishment or his needs provided for.  Every child born needs and deserves a nurturing family to thrive. In the same way, every born-again child of God needs to be a part of a family, the local church.

[i] John 13:34, Romans 12:10, Romans 14:19, Romans 15:14, I Corinthians 12:25, Galatians 5:13, Galatians 6:1-2, Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:16, I Thessalonians 4:18, Hebrews 3:13, Hebrews 10:24, James 5:16, I Peter 3:8, I Peter 4:9-10, I John 1:7

Hating, Losing & Fighting: The Key to a Strong Marriage

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My husband and I just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary. It’s been an exciting and glorious journey that began when we were just young kids. We’ve grown up together not only in age, but also in our Christian walk. We’ve raised 3 children and walked, hand-in-hand, through this life leaning on the Lord. Our marriage has been filled with laughter, tears, joy, pain, dreams, disaster, anticipation over the future, and fear of the unknown. At times it was too easy to be true and at other times it was harder than we thought we could bear. We learned early that fleshing out “two becoming one” was sometimes messy. We recognize that the sin nature we all have, along with living in this dark world, often makes marriage difficult. It’s not easy and having a God-honoring marriage is even harder.

If you and your spouse strive to live in a way that honors God, be prepared for a spiritual attack. Biblical marriage points people toward God. He ordained marriage. It is a picture and witness to this world of Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:31-32). It is good and holy. And Satan hates everything about it. He wishes to destroy your marriage (along with your life, testimony, and family). We need to be watchful because our adversary, the devil, is a roaring lion, walking about seeking people to devour (1 Peter 5:8). He often uses the troubles of this world to divide husband and wife. He’s crafty and knows how to tear couples apart. He would love nothing more than for you to give up on each other, throw in the towel, and say that marriage is too hard.

The enemy is against us; the world is against us; and our own weak flesh battles against us. It is tempting to live in defeat. But, if you are a child of God, in Christ you are victorious! He has already overcome the enemy (Revelation 20:10). Those that are born of God have overcome the world (1 John 5:4). And even our flesh has been defeated (Romans 6:6). We can walk from victory unto victory if we choose.

My husband and I have seen our share of trials and troubles over the past 32 years. Through it all, we’ve grown closer to Jesus and each other. Our love is deeper and stronger with each trial. And we’ve learned the important aspect of hating, losing, and fighting in our marriage.  That’s right, you didn’t misread this.

To be victorious you must first learn how to hate. Did you know that love and hate go hand in hand? If you love children, then you will hate seeing children abused or murdered in the womb. If you love freedom, then you will hate bondage and slavery. If you love God, then you will hate the things that are against God. To have a strong, godly marriage you must hate how the world has tried to distort marriage. You must hate divorce. You must hate the things that tear marriage apart and you must both stand on that conviction when marriage gets hard.

You also must learn how to lose. I know, we live in a win-at-all-cost society, but a couple who lives victoriously will lose. They will lose their pride. They will lose their selfishness. And they will lose all things that try to pull them away from God and each other.

And finally, you need to fight! When troubles come, and life gets hard, our eyes often become fixed on our problems. Words get spoken in haste and fighting begins. It may even seem that your spouse is the enemy. But, dear Christian, our fight is not against flesh and blood, but against “principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6:12). Don’t fight each other. Work together. Build your marriage on the foundation of Christ. Position yourselves at the door of your home and press back against the darkness of this world. Fight the enemy with the Word of God. Stand with conviction, be committed to the cause, and take courage, dear saints. When life gets hard, remember that the battle is the Lord’s. 

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I Can’t Afford It

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When my husband and I got married in 1993 we lived in a small, furnished apartment. It had old furniture, nasty carpet, and brick interior walls. It wasn’t the best, but we were happy to have it. Our rent was $265 a month. He worked as much as possible making just over $5 an hour and I worked full-time at an unpaid internship. That first year there were many weeks that after paying our bills we were left with just barely $20. So, we set aside $5 to give to church and we would be left with $10-15 to spend on groceries and gas. After we had been married for about 6 months, our landlord informed us that he would be raising the rent to $280 a month. I remember saying to my husband, “We can’t do it. How in the world are we going to be able to afford an extra $15 a month!”

I was reminded of this the other day when I pulled through a coffee shop and ordered 2 drinks that cost just over $15. Boy, have times changed! People make more money now, but prices have skyrocketed. That same apartment would no doubt be 5 times the cost. Indeed, the dollar doesn’t go as far as it used to. How many times have you said, “I just can’t afford it”?

Money impacts us all. Think about your typical day. From the moment you wake up, everything you touch has a connection to money. You either owe money for it, or it was purchased with money. You get up and get dressed for work so you can earn money. The food you eat and the clothes you wear cost money. Providing essentials for your family takes money. Driving takes money. Money is a part of life and something we cannot live without. It is no wonder the Bible speaks so much on the subject.

The Scriptures tell us that money and wealth are blessings from God (Deuteronomy 8:18, Proverbs 10:22). It also tells us that the Christian should not love it, hoard it, be proud because of it, or seek its security (1 Timothy 6:6-17). The pursuit of money should not be our goal (Proverbs 23:4). But being a good steward should be. The foundational truth is this: It all belongs to God. It’s not ours. Every day that we are given wisdom, health, and the ability to work is because God gives it to us. Every dime in our bank account and every piece of wealth we own is because God allows us to have it. Understanding and fully grasping this truth will completely change one’s perspective on everything.

A story is told of a very wealthy man who fell into financial ruin and lost everything. As a Christian, he spent his life generously giving to the Church. One day, shortly after his misfortune, he was walking past the Church and a man from the community stopped him to talk. “Now that you’ve lost everything wouldn’t you love to have back all that money you’ve given to the Church over the years?” The Christian replied, “That, my friend, is the only wealth I did not lose.”

The world doesn’t get it. Sometimes, even Christians don’t. We live for the moment and use worldly wisdom. We say, “I can’t afford to give.” But this man had a biblical perspective. He knew the words of Jesus. “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also,” Matthew 6:19-21.

Where is your treasure? Are you giving your time, talents, and treasure back to God to be stored up in heaven? Are you a faithful steward? Are you sowing bountifully and giving back to God cheerfully? “He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully. Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver,” 2 Corinthians 9:6-7.

Giving back to God is an interesting paradox in that it doesn’t always make sense. However, God says to test Him in this. “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it,” Malachi 3:10.

Remember that it is God that gives us all things. If we are selfish and stingy and hold onto money with clenched fists, nothing else can get in. But, if we hold onto the money God gives us with open hands, He can add more. “One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.” Proverbs 11:24. While some will say, “I can’t afford to give,” my reply is that I simply cannot afford not to.