Tis the season for malls, shopping, wrapping paper, gifts, bows, and ribbons. Maybe you prefer online shopping in your bathrobe with the internet, eBay and UPS. Or perhaps you prefer handmade gifts, baked goodies and homemade cards. But no matter how you look at it this is the season for gift giving. Why? Most people probably give out of tradition. You are supposed to buy gifts at Christmas. It is what has always been done. However, our family likes to look at gift giving a little differently. While it is a tradition at our home it is one with a purpose. We give gifts as a reminder of the greatest gift ever given to mankind. I must admit that I love giving gifts to my children. But toys and trinkets get broken, clothes get worn out and outgrown, electronics lose batteries and stop working, and the latest fad becomes next year’s obsolete. So I ask myself what can I give my children that will last? What type of gifts can I give that have true value?
In a world of busyness one of the most wonderful gifts we can give our children is TIME. December is probably the busiest month of the year for us. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas we go nonstop. There are people to visit, parties and programs to attend, Christmas cantata’s to practice for, gifts to make, shopping to do, etc. But life is short. Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. (Jas 4:14) This truth is especially evident when it comes to children. They do not stay young forever. They grow up fast. As parents we only have a short time to invest in our children. We need to slow down and give our children something that will matter – time. Time with us, time to play games, time to talk, time to come apart from the world, time to meditate upon God, time to read together, and time to be a family. I have heard it said that the quantity of time does not matter as long as you give your children quality time. This is not true! Research has said that parents spend on average 3.5 minutes a day in meaningful conversation with their children. How sad! However, the average child watches 1,500 hours a year of TV. I guess if you want Hollywood to raise your children then this statistic would not bother you. But dear Christian parent is should bother you. Turn off the TV and spend TIME with your children. Read to them at night, pray with them, and sing songs. When they grow up and look back at their life these are the things they will remember.
Another gift we can give our children is a home filled with PEACE. The world is hectic and noisy but our homes should be a gentle haven of rest for our children. Our children should not have homes filled with screaming and shouting but with soft answers and love. The fruits of the Spirit should be manifested in our homes – love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. A home filled with peace not only blesses our children but consider what a true witness it is to the world around us. Voddie Bauchman in Family Driven Faith states, “Our homes must be rife with the aroma of love. Those who visit us should notice immediately that they have left the world of self-serving egocentric narcissism and have entered a safe harbor where people value and esteem others above themselves. Outsiders should enter our homes and never want to leave. Our neighbors should find excuses to visit us just to get another whiff of the fragrant aroma of love. The brokenhearted should long to be near us. The down trodden and abused should seek us out. Families on the brink of disaster should point to us and say, ‘Why can’t our home be like that?’” This describes a home filled with PEACE. What a superb gift to give our children.
Another gift that is so overlooked in our modern culture is the gift of LOVING and RESPECTING the children’s father. While loving your children is a given, a high value placed on loving their father is often ignored. Notice the order of things that the older women are to be teaching the younger women mentioned in Titus 2:4-5, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” The focus of the family should be on the marriage. Children are in the home for a short time and the relationship they have with their parents change but this is not so in the husband and wife relationship. When parents are united the children are blessed. When I demonstrate to my children proper LOVE and RESPECT for my husband God is glorified and the children’s faith is strengthened.
While giving gifts let’s not forget the gift of HARDWORK. Society will tell a child that you should do as little as possible to get as much as possible. It is this fallacy of thinking that has led to lazy people and an abuse of our welfare system. But, give your children the gift of learning how to work hard and they will always be able to thrive. In addition, it is pleasing to the Lord. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; (Col 3:23)
One of the greatest gifts we can give is the gift of INNER BEAUTY, especially when it comes to our daughters. Godly women are not born, but raised. There are many mothers concerned over whether their daughters have fashionable clothes and the latest styles. And many mothers would be alarmed if their daughters were wearing dirty clothes. But how many mothers care if their daughter has a filthy heart? To teach and train our daughters about inner beauty that is acceptable to God is a divine gift we can give. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
There are many gifts we can give our children. But one that is of utmost importance is to give your children BIBLICAL STANDARDS to live by. As Christian parents we should not want for our children what every other parent wants. We shouldn’t hold them to the world’s standards but to God’s standards. Do you want your children to make the team? What about them making it into the Lambs book of life? Do you want them to get a good education? What about them being educated in the Word of God? Do you want them to be true and loyal to their friends? What about your children being faithful to the Lord and His Church? Do you want your children to be popular? What about them being peculiar? God’s ways are always higher. “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed” (Rom 12:2a). Christian parent, there are many worthwhile pursuits in this world but few rise to the level of training our children to follow the Lord, to love Him with all we are, to treasure His Word, and to keep His commandments. When we do this we have given our children gifts that never tear up, get worn, or get taken away.
So, this holiday season I’ll be looking for presents for my children and wrapping packages like many others. But the most precious gifts I’ll strive to give them will not be the ones that come in a box. Instead, the gifts I will strive to give will be of eternal value.

“If this does not stir up the American people I don’t know what will!” I commented to my husband after the Muslim terrorist attack at Fort Hood last week. “Sweetheart” he said, “9-11 only briefly awakened the people.” As sad as the statement was the apathy that has followed is evidence of that truth. The day after 9-11 the American people rallied together in a spirit of unity but what has happened since that time? Even now, days after Major Nidal Malik Hasan gunned down and murdered 13 American soldiers in the name of Allah the news reporters are still shunning away from words like terrorist and Muslim. No one will call a spade a spade, instead stating that his alleged faith might have triggered the attack. Might have? Are we so blind to the obvious truth? Have we come so far that we can no longer recognize the enemy? Anyone who still believes that the Muslim religion is one of peace does so by willing ignorance. Not only do these people want all infidels dead, it is their commission to carry it out. But this nation founded upon Christian principles gladly shuts her eyes to this. We’ll just welcome them in, pay for their schooling, enlist them in the army and turn the other cheek when they murder the innocent. It doesn’t take a fool to recognize that the most effective way to defeat an enemy is to do so from within. I’m afraid that our nation’s godly heritage has been chipped away piece by piece, generation after generation. Is there any of the internal fortitude of our founding fathers left in this country? Will we ever again be able to recognize and defeat the enemy within? Or, will we continue down the same destructive path in the name of political correctness? The answer lies within God’s Holy Word. “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” (2Ch 7:14) Perhaps before we can expect our nation to recognize the enemy within and do something about it; we as God’s people need to be able to. Our churches and our homes are filled with the enemy’s devices – sins, fallacies, and wickedness – all packaged so beautifully. Our churches have allowed false teachers because they tickle our ears. Sin abounds in the church because sin is pleasurable for a season. We have a form of godliness but deny the power thereof. We welcome in unbelievers for the sake of church growth. We compromise truth for the sake of unity. Our churches are dying spiritually and have been relegated to the corner of society because they are powerless. The reason our churches are weak is because our families are weak. Not only are they weak but they are being destroyed one home at a time. We have welcomed in humanistic thinking to the point to where a Biblical worldview seems skewed. We open our minds up to the world’s filth via Hollywood hours each day. We ask sin to come into our homes, to abide with us and to fellowship with us and then wonder why our marriages and our children are being destroyed by the Enemy. We accept and live by the standards of the world, never once seeking God’s holy standards for our lives. Why is our nation in trouble? It is simply because God’s people are in trouble. We must humble ourselves. We must pray. We must seek God’s face. We must turn from our wicked ways. Then, and only then, will God heal our land. Otherwise, the enemy within will accomplish what it has set out to do – steal, kill, and destroy.
He was just a little fellow, sitting on top of his bunk bed with his head hung low. “Son, you need to be obedient. Mommy and Daddy expect you to do what you’re told, when you’re told.” I don’t remember now what he was in trouble for but I do remember his response. “Mommy, nobody is perfect. I’m not Jesus.”
It has rained here all day. This means that my children, not able to play outside after their schoolwork, were rather restless. Then the electricity went out. Living in the forest, we never know how long it will stay out. Therefore, Abigail and Andrew made a tent in the living room out of blankets, chairs and rubber bands. After the excitement of that wore off Aaron broke out the Monopoly game. I was sitting on the couch trying to study my Sunday school lesson while listening to them talk about which game piece they wanted to be. It took me back to my childhood for just as second as I remembered always wanting to be the car. However, playing with my older brother I usually ended up being stuck with the dog or thimble (which no one ever wanted to be). It was then that I heard my son say something about the upside-down trash can. I found this very amusing. To a child who does not know what a thimble is or who has never had anyone explain it to him, it makes perfect sense to call it an upside-down trash can. That’s exactly what it looks like.
She was a beautiful lady and well dressed but her eyes were so sad. “Can I ask you something?” she said. It was after I had finished speaking at an Apples of Gold ladies conference at our church that she approached me. “My husband portrays himself as a godly spiritual leader when we are at church but at home he is a different man. Am I still to submit to a hypocritical husband?” We talked for several minutes. I shared with her some Bible verses and ended saying, “Yes, we are to submit as unto the Lord. Scripture does not say we are only to submit to a perfect husband.” I explained to her that submission was easy when your husband was a godly man who strived to do with will of God and to love you as he should. But an ungodly man was no excuse for unsubmission. “Remember,” I said, “You will be accountable to the Lord for your obedience not your husbands.” After a few more minutes, she left with a glimmer of hope in those once sad eyes. I’ll probably never meet her again but have often wondered about this dear lady. Has she been obedient to the Scriptures in spite of her husband’s faults? Has God worked on her husband’s heart?






